Relationships

I'm really struggling right now with the situation with Jeff, my ex-boyfriend. We had broken up on mutual terms and worked on building a friendship together. However, that proved harder than either of us thought, and we got caught telling each other we missed each other and still loved one another still. Bad news. We agreed we both needed to take steps back and not see each other as much, especially alone. Yet he would show up at my apartment to see me still, and then be hurt when I refused to touch him or be close to him. He wanted me to come with him to his friend's wedding this weekend, which I told him was not a good idea, and then he was hurt when he asked if I wanted him to stop by so I could see him in his tux and I said no. Finally, over the weekend, he said something I thought was inappropriate, and I got pretty mad. He then told me that all we've ever done is fight since we broke up, and that he has not yet gotten any sort of break from me, and that he thinks it would be best for us to stop talking completely. I wasn't very happy about this either because I wasn't having issues talking. However, since we stopped talking, I know he's been telling people about it. I realize he is a relational person and needs to be able to talk things through, but I feel like he has gone to mutual friends in an effort to get them on his side, and I feel somewhat betrayed. I changed settings on my online calendar so that he couldn't see what I was doing, but could still see busy/available, without realizing that would send him an email. He then told everyone that I was trying to contact him and was having a hard time with this. He has contacted me several times this week through texts, and I've politely wrote back with as little as possible (because I frankly don't know how to be rude enough to ignore anyone completely). He is also telling everyone that this is for my good, and that he needs to step up to be the man and the leader. I agree with that, but I don't think he has done that.

I'm thinking that cutting each other off may actually be the best thing now, and I'm pretty sure I'm going to continue it even after the one week is over. I'd rather not give him more to tell other people about; I've never had someone gossip about me and tear me down to others so much in my entire life. I had really thought that we could still have a good friendship after ending our relationship, I thought this was going to be the best case scenario of things not working out....apparently it really is impossible to be friends after a relationship ends.